April Firsts

Keeping it short and sweet today. Well, maybe not so sweet.

Sir left for work this morning and as he was giving me a hug and kiss goodbye, his hand snaked around my arm. Definitely some boob groping.

In public. Where any of our neighbors could have seen.



It was awesome.

Lazy Weekends

Sir and I have had a very lazy weekend thus far. He has been very lax in the rules, since I was indisposed ealier this week and am still coming off of being sick. We worked on the laundry, which wasn't nearly as bad as it has been. He offered to fold it all, so that's done. I need to put it all away sometime today, but as he is still sleeping, that will have to wait.

My first for today: First all day gaming session with Sir

We spent the majority of the day yesterday playing games. And not sexy games. Computer/video games. We have never had a gaming session together before, and it was kind of fun. We put on some fun music, Sir got his chair moved to optimal position in front of the TV, and I got myself set up in front of the computer. We made some coffee and played games, talking occasionally...until it was time to meet my parents for dinner. Hours later. It was so much fun.

We also started yesterday off with a good banging session. Sir fingered me until I came, then he pounded me until he came. I love when he just takes me for his own enjoyment. I thoroughly enjoy being used like that, and the rougher, the better.

This morning, I think I am going to head out and get the groceries picked up while he is still sleeping. I caved and went to bed around 11 last night, but I think he came much later. Like 2am. So he won't be up for a while, hopefully.

Sir says today we are going for a walk, since it is supposed to be nice out and we spent the entire day yesterday on our asses. I really need to get better about working out in the mornings and I also need to revamp my chores schedule. Sir saw how much extra work I was doing this week as part of my new contract and offered to wash and fold the laundry on his day off, as long as I put it away the next day...which was very nice of him. He also wants me to start wearing skirts to work more often, since its getting nicer.

Today is the first day in almost 8 years that I will not be taking my scheduled birth control. It feels so strange. Like I am forgetting something. Sir and I are not actively planning to get me pregnant, but we are not trying NOT to either. Que sera, sera. I do have an app that will let me track my periods, since I haven't had to do that in almost a decade. It puts in your period and the duration and then lets you know when you ovulate. Good info to know, I guess.

Overall, I would say that this week has been a huge success in terms of my service. The house has been cleaner, Sir has been happier, and the weekend was able to be squandered however we saw fit. Plus I got to wear my collar, which I love. Someone commented on it at dinner last night and it was all I could do not to blush and grin.

Effing Friday!

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April Firsts-Sexy Time

This month, I am going to share my FIRSTS with you. Feel free to play along and to give suggestions for my next entries. I couldn't think of anything to write and I couldn't find any good prompts--so I made one up. Enjoy. They may or may not be related to D/s. But I couldn't resist for this first FIRST. :)

First time having sex:

Sir is my one and only sexual partner. I feel like I am in the minority with this one--marrying the first person you sleep with. Sir and I have known each other for years though, and we eventually decided that not having sex was doing more harm than good to our relationship. We were engaged. Sir was not a virgin, but I was. After months of talking about it, and weeks of seriously considering it, the circumstances fell into place for us and we took full advantage of it. A freak snow storm meant that we had to leave to go back to university a day earlier than planned. A day earlier than the dorms opened. A night where we would have to stay SOMEWHERE.

A hotel. By ourselves.

Granted, we had been living on campus in same building for a year, but we both had roommates. Getting walked in on was not how I wanted my first time to be.

So we drove back together, neither of us really talking about it, but feeling that we were finally going to do it. Sir stopped in town to do some last-minute shopping, and I had the feeling that we were finally going to do it. I bought a pretty teddy that split down the middle and a thong, and when I came back (different stores in one area), Sir had gotten some champagne, some dessert, and a box of condoms. He was the one who finally brought it up, showing me the box and saying that we didn't have to unless I wanted to.

I wanted to.

We went out to a nice dinner at our favorite local place, put the car in the parking garage to keep the snow off of it, and went back to the hotel to ride out the storm.

We opened the champagne, had a little dessert, and then started making out. Sir didn't know that I had bought the teddy, so when it became painfully obvious that we were going to do it, I excused myself to the bathroom to freshen up and change.

I came out to find that Sir had put on some light music, turned the lights off, and opened the curtains, revealing the start of a blizzard outside. He turned, saw me, and smiled.

The rest of the night is a happy blur. I remember his moan when he entered me the first time. I remember his gasps of passion and my own voice mixing with his. I remember that he broke one of the condoms because he was thrusting so hard into me. I was on birth control, so we didn't get too worried about it. I remember falling asleep next to him. And being woken up for rounds two, three, and four. And I remember that when he finally got his own room, I slept next to him for the rest of the year.

My challenge to anyone who made it this far: tell me about YOUR first time.

Always his,

HLA

Scheduling and Whining

I have made a schedule for keeping up with the house, and it seems to be working pretty well. In addition to the evening wipe-down of the kitchen (which has helped immensely), I broke the house up into bits so I can hit one section per day. Monday is the kitchen, Tuesday is the bedroom and vacuuming, Wednesday is the bathrooms, Thursday is the light-colored laundry and the living room, Friday is the dark colored laundry and making the menu/shopping list, and Saturday is vacuuming, grocery shopping, and anything else that needs to get done. My deadline is noon so that I can spend some quality time with Sir.

My coughing is FINALLY coming to an end. I haven't had any cough syrup since Sunday, and I don't sound like a frog anymore.

Sir has noticed an improvement in the housekeeping, which makes me happy. He's been so stressed and bitchy about his job--and has been like this for MONTHS--but it is nice to get recognition for my extra effort. I figure if the house is cleaner, he will have less excuse for not putting in more job applications.

Its very hard for me to keep my mouth shut about his job situation. I think he is being lazy and doesn't want to spend the time filling out the damn applications after a day of work. Which I get. But then he bitches about how much he dislikes his job and the stupid things that he has to deal with all day--and it makes me stressed out. He's upset, I'm upset that he's upset, and then I'm pissed because if he would just PUT IN SOME APPS we would both feel like he is at least making an effort.

I think I might go make something good for dessert. That will help, right?

Always his,
HLA

Long Weekend

This is a long weekend for Sir and I, and we have been taking full advantage of that. Yesterday, I spent the morning cleaning up the house, which looks much better. When Sir got home, we went errand-running and then came home for what I thought was the rest of the day. "Put your shoes back on, we aren't done."

We went to the mall, and I couldn't figure out why we were there.

Sir is buying me a collar for our weekends. :) 

According to our new contract, which I just uploaded, I am to wear a specific necklace from Friday until Sunday. I figured we would just pick one that I just don't wear that often, but he wants to buy me one. It was very sweet.

Unfortunately, with me being kind of a picky pain in the ass, we didn't find one at the mall. We are going to try another store today, since we will be going out for date day.

Also, tomorrow is my last birth control pill. I'm super excited and super nervous.

Date day awaits!

Always his,

HLA

Our Contract

Following is a list of Possession’s promises, based on the previous contract and discussion with Sir.

 

General Guidelines

1.       I promise to submit to the will of Sir. I will accept His authority over me and will do my best to obey His commands. I will work hard to be obedient and to serve Him in every way.

2.       I will remember that I am a direct reflection of Sir and that, as such, I must behave and conduct myself in a manner that reflects positively on Him.

3.       My service and submission are a gift that I willingly choose to bestow upon Sir. I must always remember that He has authority over me and that my duties are to obey, serve, and please Him.

4.       Sir will not accept any shirking of responsibility or tolerate unfounded excuses. Any failures will be dealt with on a case-by-case basis, to include assignation of punishments.

5.       When Sir and I are apart, I will strive to follow and obey all guidelines and expectations. I will report any misdeeds upon being reunited with Sir, and will accept any correction he gives.

 

Communication

1.       I will answer Sir in a respectful, pleasant tone at all times. I will not use bad language (sexual use excluded), especially the F word. I will not be short, rude, or demeaning to Sir.

2.       I will inform Sir immediately if I am ill, in a bad mood, upset with Him, or generally “not in the mood.” Such information is not a blanket cancellation, but rather information that Sir will use to possibly alter our plans. Final decisions are at his discretion.

3.       I will voice my opinion calmly and politely, knowing that Sir has ultimate authority. I am allowed to refuse only under dire circumstances.

4.       Requests, questions, and answers will be phrased in a submissive manner. “What would you like for dinner, Sir?” “May I go to bed now, Sir?” “Yes, Sir.”

5.       If I need to have an IMPORTANT DISCUSSION with Sir, I may temporarily revert to “vanilla mode,” understanding that Sir still has final authority. I may speak freely.

 

Clothing, Hygiene, and Health

1.       My clothing should reflect Sir’s high standards of taste. I may wear “gym clothes” when actively doing a workout.

2.       I will keep myself clean and ready for Sir’s use at all times. I will keep myself trimmed and/or shaved per Sir’s specifications.

3.       I will wear my hair down as much as possible at Sir’s request. I will not leave my hair pinned up overnight. I will consult with Sir prior to any hair cutting, as he prefers my hair to be long.

4.       I will take my thyroid medicine daily, as prescribed. I will take my vitamins daily, preferably with dinner. I will not mindlessly snack between meals, as my health is very important to Sir. I will set myself a daily workout plan and will keep track of each workout for Sir’s perusal.

5.       Treats are to be given at Sir’s discretion. This includes, but is not limited to, sweets, dessert, alcohol, and unhealthy foods (such as pizza). I may only indulge with Sir’s permission.

 

 

 

Domestic Housewifery

1.       It is my responsibility to create a weekly menu for Sir’s approval. I will endeavor to plan healthy meals and treats. I will keep the kitchen clean and organized.

2.       I may complete my chores as time allows during the week, with the expectation that they are all completed by noon on Saturdays, to allow full enjoyment of my weekends with Sir. See CHORES.

3.       Sir’s requests take immediate priority over my actions. I must obey quickly and efficiently.

4.       I will prepare dinner each night (unless otherwise instructed), taking care to keep the damage to a minimum.

5.       Upon leaving or returning to Sir, I will give Him a kiss and await further instruction. If Sir has no immediate need of me, he will inform me and I am free to complete whatever I need to do.

 

Chores/Service

1.       It is my intention that Sir should not have to complete any domestic work unless he chooses to. This means that the house should be maintained in decent order, so that there will be no panic in the event of unannounced visitors and so that he may enjoy his days off.

2.       On a daily basis: random items will be picked up, dishes will be placed in either the sink or dishwasher, and cleaned as necessary. Countertops will be wiped down each evening. Sir’s coffee will be readied before we go to bed. The bathrooms will be kept free of clothing and toiletries will be put away, and the cat’s room will be taken care of. Sir may always request further upkeep. On a weekly basis: laundry will be done and put away, carpets will be vacuumed (twice), grocery shopping will be done, and general upkeep of the house will be done.

3.       Each morning, I should leave the house in as good of condition as possible so that Sir does not come to home to a mess.  After dinner, I should focus on keeping the kitchen in good condition.

4.       I will put Sir’s needs and desires above my own and will strive to obey quickly. I will learn and remember his preferences, endeavoring always to please Him. I will obey without question or needless delay.

5.       Should Sir ask for anything to be brought to him, I will get the item and then present it to him, placing it wherever he directs. I will then ask if he needs anything else.

 

Routines

1.       I will prepare Sir’s coffee each night before bed. I will get up with Sir and make breakfast, then complete my daily workout after he leaves for work. On his weekday off, I will do yoga or something else quiet to build elasticity.

2.       Upon my arrival home from work (providing Sir is home as well), I will put my purse etc. away neatly and greet Sir. I will await further instructions, and change out of my work clothes as quickly as possible.

3.       Before I start dinner, I should ask Sir if he needs anything. I should set the table at some point during dinner prep. I will attempt to give Sir at least five minutes of warning before bringing the plates to the table. Following the meal, I will remove the dishes and put away any leftovers, as well as pre-treat any large messes.

4.       I will clear the table when Sir has finished eating. I will get Him seconds of anything he wants. I will request seconds of anything I want, clarifying if I am still hungry or if this is a treat.

5.       I will ready myself for bed in the following manner: wash face, floss, brush teeth, use mouthwash, brush out hair (if it was up during the day), and ask Sir if I may wear pajamas. By default, I must sleep naked.

 

Sexual Usage

1.       I am Sir’s plaything. I should be ready at all times for his immediate use. If I do not wish to play, I should inform Him as soon as possible. I will not be embarrassed of my body or the verbal naming of its parts.

2.       My mouth, pussy, and ass are property of Sir and he may do whatever he wishes with them. Their only purpose is his pleasure.

3.       I may not masturbate without permission. I may not orgasm without permission.

4.       Sir and I will keep each other informed regarding our general levels of sexual excitement. This will assist in pleasurable encounters for both of us.

5.       I should remember that any orgasm I achieve is due to Sir’s generosity and should thank Him.  

 

Leisure Time

1.       After my chores and responsibilities are completed, I may do whatever activity I wish, while making sure Sir’s needs are met.

2.       Electronic devices (primarily my cell phone and computers) may only be used with Sir’s permission.

3.       I will ask for permission before scheduling activities with or without Sir. I will seek His approval prior to committing to any events.

4.       Sir would like me to enjoy myself on my days off. This means adequate planning so that I am not stuck doing chores during this time.

5.       I should keep Sir informed about my activities so that he is not inconvenienced.

 

Special Expectations for Weekends:

 

FRIDAY

o   Upon rising, Possession will immediately use personal weights. These will be used throughout the day as a reminder of who Possession belongs to and what her purpose is for Sir.

o   Possession may wear jeans to work but should change into something more flattering upon her arrival home. Possession is forbidden to wear panties without permission for the entirety of the weekend, beginning with her arrival home on Fridays. This includes time spent away from the house.

o   Sir and Possession will designate a particular necklace to serve as a weekend collar. This will be worn in place of any other necklace as a physical and visual reminder that Possession is Sir’s property.

SATURDAY

o   Possession is required to use SBP for one hour. This will be completed before noon. She will request permission from Sir to do this.

SUNDAY

o   Possession is required to use SBP for one hour. This will be completed before noon. She will request permission from Sir to do this.

 

*****Exceptions will be made if social obligations conflict with the weekend expectations. Other exceptions will be made due to health or “lady” issues.

o   Possession is permitted and encouraged to offer suggestions to increase the enjoyment of both Possession and Sir.

o   Possession’s purpose is to please Sir. She is Sir’s Slut and Sex Toy. She is here only to please Sir. She is to make every part of herself available for Sir’s pleasure at all times.

o   If illness occurs that makes any part of Possession unavailable to Sir, Possession is to notify Sir immediately!

o   Possession will also acquiesce to any of Sir’s requests without question or hesitation, as it is not her place to question Sir or his desires for her.

o   Possession will only be permitted to use Fuck as a request of Sir.

o   Possession is required to ask Sir for permission before initiating any play.

o   Possession is forbidden to cum without Sir’s permission. She will request permission from Sir to do so. “Sir can I please/Sir please allow me to…” Failure to properly address Sir will be given no acknowledgement.

o   Possession will thank Sir for allowing her to cum.

o   Possession is also forbidden to please or touch herself without Sir present.

o   Failure to adhere to these instructions and guidelines will result in punishment for Possession.